Sex by Numbers – The Perfect Penis

Sex by Numbers

Ah, the perfect penis. Does such a thing exist? In classical times, large penises were seen as bestial or unseemly (which is why Roman statues are so ungenerously endowed), but there seems to be an increasing trend towards ‘the bigger the better’, with 45% of men reporting a desire for a larger penis in two separate largescale studies, conducted almost 15 years apart [1] [2]. But why the modern obsession with the size of the male organ?

It’s possible that it’s influenced by our increased access to pornography – or by increased awareness of what women want. After all, the female preference for larger organs seems to be encoded in our evolutionary history – while chimps, bonobos and gorillas have average penis lengths of around 8cm and 3cm respectively, the comparatively exaggerated length of human male penises seems to be a product of natural selection [3]. But, having evolved to the stage we’re at, is there any reason to believe that women prefer penises of above-average size? And what is ‘average’, anyway? Are there other qualities to look out for in the ‘perfect’ penis, and is bigger always better?

Your Average Joe Schlong

When it comes to the penis, there’s great variation in what’s considered normal. Our perception of average penis size tends to come from seminal sex researcher Alfred Kinsey’s studies, which is where the oft-cited figure of six inches comes from. But these studies had some limitations – not only were they carried out exclusively on white, college-age men, Kinsey also allowed his participants to measure their penises themselves [4]. A more recent study attempted to answer the question of the ‘average’ penis size once and for all, compiling the results of 20 separate studies from around the world – and this study found the international average to be around five inches [5]. This research only included the results of studies where the penis was measured independently by a doctor – which could explain the discrepancy with Kinsey’s results. The study also extensively details the difficulties in obtaining accurate results, even positing that the manner in which the erection was achieved could affect the erection’s length.

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What Women Really Want

But what if you fall outside these broad norms – should you be concerned? Well, reports on women’s ideal penis sizes tend to vary as much as men’s penis lengths themselves. For example, the same 2016 study which found that 45% of men desire a larger penis found that 65.9% of participants agreed with the delicately phrased statement that ‘it isn’t the size of the boat but it’s the motion of the ocean’ [1], although these responses were amalgamated across both genders. However, an overwhelming number of female sexual partners agreed that penis size wasn’t as important as connection (76.6%) creativity (71.9%) or attraction (61.9%). In fact, erectile dysfunction appeared to be more problematic than a smaller penis size, with 49.3% of women saying their partners’ erectile dysfunction would impact their self-esteem ‘quite a bit or very much’.

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So if you’re spending time agonizing over your penis size, you might do better to focus on the things you can change, instead. If you suffer from erectile dysfunction, check yourself out at our men’s health clinic in London – if you’re concerned you can’t pleasure your partner, focus on your technique, rather than your penis size. While many women do show a preference for larger genitalia [6][7], that doesn’t mean at the expense of everything else – just the same way that we may show a preference for large breasts and tight tums, given the choice. So don’t let worries about the perfect penis get to you – most women are a lot more concerned with what you do than what you do it with.

[1] http://www.goodinbed.com/good-in-bed-survey-on-penis-perceptions/index.php
[2]https://www.researchgate.net/publication/232595653_Does_Size_Matter_Men’s_and_Women’s_Views_on_Penis_Size_Across_the_Lifespan
[3] https://www.theguardian.com/science/2010/may/06/women-penis-size
[4] Sex by Numbers, David Spiegelhalter, p150
[5] http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/bju.13010/full
[6] http://news.nationalgeographic.com/news/2013/04/130408-penises-science-evolution-genitalia-health-weird/
[7] http://www.pnas.org/content/110/17/6925.abstract

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